By Sue Siebens
Most of us don’t openly talk about our emotions. and if we do, it’s only the big stuff and it’s only if it’s causing disruption in our life.
But what if we could acknowledge that the daily disruptions and discomforts that are expressed as emotions are just as important as any body pain we sense? What if self-care, like brushing our teeth or exercising our bodies included taking care of our emotions?
Researchers find, over and over again, that chronic and acute stresses in our lives contribute to greater incidences of depression, anxiety, irritability, sadness, regret, chronic dissatisfaction, anger, envy, fear, shame, frustration, and compulsive behaviors and addictions. Our stressors trigger emotions, large and small, to erupt in our lives.
Imagine for a moment all the time and energy we spend feeling, coping, trying to process and controlling our emotions. It literally robs us of hours and hours…that we will never get back. They also distract us from the many other behavioral choices available to us and come back when triggered again.
ENOUGH! There is a better way to go.
Recently a person shared that as the result of reading a CaringBridge journal, recounting a succession of health crises, surgeries and amputations, she was so sad for the person that she wept for over an hour. She was moved by the person’s struggles. And rightly so! But what actual good did the hour of crying do? Future reading of that continuing story will likely cause more tears.
If she would resolve the emotion that is causing her sorrow, she could use her empathetic reaction in a number of beneficial ways. She could relieve their isolation by a visit with them in-person or by phone. If they are still in the hospital, bring them an “outside” snack or treat that fits in their meal regimen. If they are home, bring them a home cooked meal or their favorite take-out. Drive them to appointments, shopping, or accompany them to a movie when they are able. There a ton of options to choose from when emotions are not in your way.
If you name an adverse emotional response, I bet I could come up with 3-5 gentle and beneficial responses that are more soul satisfying.
Now think about waking up in the morning… how many small emotions do we navigate as we turn off the alarm and roll out of bed. So many little blips, sometimes too small to label. “Ugh – is that alarm really going off already – I could really use just a couple more minutes [disappointment], I better get up and get my exercise/meditation done [control/fear of consequences], OMG – I need to dress for a big meeting today with a new client [anxiety], Did my kid get their homework/project done? I may need to help them pull things together [frustrated overload], crap I forgot to get cereal–ok smoothies for breakfast [dismay], etc” and your feet haven’t even hit the ground yet!
We need to release the toxic emotions that keep us bound up in order to get to the gentle and beneficial actions and behaviors that enrich our life.
First we need to accept that working with emotions is a normal and necessary thing to do. We are HUMAN. We have emotions. It comes with the territory.
As humans, our bodies have a natural and innate ability to resolve emotions. When we have an unpleasant emotion, it just means that at some point in our life, we had a high stress event that overcame the body’s ability and the emotion was embedded in the body.
Emotional Resolution, EmRes, uses active awareness to engage the body’s innate ability to permanently resolve the uncomfortable emotion. We don’t have to understand the origin of the pain or learn coping skills to control or avoid the triggers. We just become aware of the physical sensations of our emotional pain and our body does the rest.
During EmRes sessions, the client is fully conscious, lucid and in control of themselves. A real emotional event is recalled, but not triggered. Personal details need not be shared. It is a quiet, gentle and permanent release of the emotion related to a natural situation.
After the brain and body has reintegrated the embedded emotion, the same trigger will have no “charge”. The trigger will not produce the emotion.
We are naturally wired to do this work.
Are you ready to be rid of your toxic emotions?
Sue Siebens is an intuitive holistic healer based in Dallas, Texas. In her practice, she uses techniques that work at a fundamental level, where the roots of the illness, fear and pain can be accessed and resolved. Sue teaches and blogs to broadcast and raise awareness about these new technologies, so that as many people as possible can find relief and peace in their life.