Emotional Detox – Everyone needs it

By Sue Siebens

Most of us don’t openly talk about our emotions. and if we do, it’s only the big stuff and it’s only if it’s causing disruption in our life.

But what if we could acknowledge that the daily disruptions and discomforts that are expressed as emotions are just as important as any body pain we sense? What if self-care, like brushing our teeth or exercising our bodies included taking care of our emotions?

Researchers find, over and over again, that chronic and acute stresses in our lives contribute to greater incidences of depression, anxiety, irritability, sadness, regret, chronic dissatisfaction, anger, envy, fear, shame, frustration, and compulsive behaviors and addictions. Our stressors trigger emotions, large and small, to erupt in our lives.

Imagine for a moment all the time and energy we spend feeling, coping, trying to process and controlling our emotions. It literally robs us of hours and hours…that we will never get back. They also distract us from the many other behavioral choices available to us and come back when triggered again.

ENOUGH! There is a better way to go.

Recently a person shared that as the result of reading a CaringBridge journal, recounting a succession of health crises, surgeries and amputations, she was so sad for the person that she wept for over an hour. She was moved by the person’s struggles. And rightly so! But what actual good did the hour of crying do? Future reading of that continuing story will likely cause more tears.

If she would resolve the emotion that is causing her sorrow, she could use her empathetic reaction in a number of beneficial ways. She could relieve their isolation by a visit with them in-person or by phone. If they are still in the hospital, bring them an “outside” snack or treat that fits in their meal regimen. If they are home, bring them a home cooked meal or their favorite take-out. Drive them to appointments, shopping, or accompany them to a movie when they are able. There a ton of options to choose from when emotions are not in your way.

If you name an adverse emotional response, I bet I could come up with 3-5 gentle and beneficial responses that are more soul satisfying.

Now think about waking up in the morning… how many small emotions do we navigate as we turn off the alarm and roll out of bed. So many little blips, sometimes too small to label. “Ugh – is that alarm really going off already – I could really use just a couple more minutes [disappointment], I better get up and get my exercise/meditation done [control/fear of consequences], OMG – I need to dress for a big meeting today with a new client [anxiety], Did my kid get their homework/project done? I may need to help them pull things together [frustrated overload], crap I forgot to get cereal–ok smoothies for breakfast [dismay], etc” and your feet haven’t even hit the ground yet!


Emotional Detox

We need to release the toxic emotions that keep us bound up in order to get to the gentle and beneficial actions and behaviors that enrich our life.

First we need to accept that working with emotions is a normal and necessary thing to do. We are HUMAN. We have emotions. It comes with the territory.

As humans, our bodies have a natural and innate ability to resolve emotions. When we have an unpleasant emotion, it just means that at some point in our life, we had a high stress event that overcame the body’s ability and the emotion was embedded in the body.

Emotional Resolution, EmRes, uses active awareness to engage the body’s innate ability to permanently resolve the uncomfortable emotion. We don’t have to understand the origin of the pain or learn coping skills to control or avoid the triggers. We just become aware of the physical sensations of our emotional pain and our body does the rest.

During EmRes sessions, the client is fully conscious, lucid and in control of themselves. A real emotional event is recalled, but not triggered. Personal details need not be shared. It is a quiet, gentle and permanent release of the emotion related to a natural situation.

After the brain and body has reintegrated the embedded emotion, the same trigger will have no “charge”. The trigger will not produce the emotion.

We are naturally wired to do this work.

Are you ready to be rid of your toxic emotions?

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About Sue
Sue Siebens is an intuitive holistic healer based in Dallas, Texas. In her practice, she uses techniques that work at a fundamental level, where the roots of the illness, fear and pain can be accessed and resolved.  Sue teaches and blogs to broadcast and raise awareness about these new technologies, so that as many people as possible can find relief and peace in their life.

Shrugging off Apathy

By Sue Siebens

If you have periods of complacency and indifference, whether it’s centered around a specific topic, object or activity, that you should otherwise be interested in, you are experiencing apathy.

Apathy is the lack of interest or concern. It’s a lack of feeling anything. There is no spark or stimulation that leads to being motivated for action. Apathetic people get so passive that they just don’t care enough and don’t care that they don’t care. They have retired from the rough-and-tumble of life.

Apathy is a coping technique to deal with challenges that are too intense or too complicated to bear. It is a way for humans to deal with too much stress.

Often we think of the apathetic teenager–the slacker who give the minimum attention and effort to adult directed activities like schoolwork, household chores, etc. But apathy can be overwhelming at any age. As our population ages, we are seeing apathy in many older adults as they shift from a busy career and family life and try to find new callings and occupations.

Apathy can express the rebellion towards what is going on in your life when the person can’t express it any other way.

Apathy frequently masks underlying emotions. It’s likely some form of utter pessimism about the future and a cowering certainty of never being able to measuring up. Or a matrix of similar feelings. Removing the underlying emotions will remove the apathy!

Emotional Resolution offers a technique to root out the primordial emotions(s) of apathy.

Apathy, like it’s cousin depression, rides along in our life in waves; at certain times we are less apathetic then others. Then something–some trigger–sets us over the edge and into another spiral of apathy. Aroused by the trigger, the subconscious awakens emotions that were trapped in the body during traumatic episodes happening previously in life.

The Emotional Resolution uses the trigger-emotion couplets to highlight the trapped emotion, use the body’s natural capacity to metabolize the emotion and reset the subconscious’s desire to trigger the emotional event.

Without the underlying emotion, apathy will not have a place to fester and will leave.

Each trigger-emotion couplet can be addressed one at a time. It may seem like an endless well of work at the outset. But in most cases, progress is swiftly observed and the desire to rejoin life returns.

But the decision is yours to make….

Are you willing to do the work to get your life back? Will you follow through can kick apathy out of your life?

Just say YES! Your friends and family miss you!

Shrug off Apathy and leave it’s emotions behind

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About Sue
Sue Siebens is an intuitive holistic healer based in Dallas, Texas. In her practice, she uses techniques that work at a fundamental level, where the roots of the illness, fear and pain can be accessed and resolved.  Sue teaches and blogs to broadcast and raise awareness about these new technologies, so that as many people as possible can find relief and peace in their life.

Awakening Human Potential

By Sue Siebens

When I started learning and working with Emotional Resolution (EmRes), I thought: “Hey, EmRes is great stuff. There are lots of people with over-the-top emotions, trapped in their behaviors and locked into patterns that seem unbreakable.”  And EmRes can certainly tackle those myriad of “large” emotions, that swamp people’s lives and keep them imprisoned in cycles of fear, rage and abuse, to themselves and others. 

We have the Potential to be Super-Great

Now that I’ve worked with EmRes for a while, with clients, friends, fellow practitioners and myself, I’ve come to realize that, Yes, it works great for people with “big” emotional issues. But we all have tensions inside of us. They range from irritable, snappy, or loudly expressed to bitter, callous, quiet eye-rolling or coldly indifferent.

When I was working in IT, I was frequently under high levels of stress for long periods of time. It’s kind of the nature of the beast in IT. And occasionally, I’d blow up, directly my anxiety outward. Subconsciously, it was my way to scare people away so that they would leave me alone and my sensations would go away. The physical sensation that my brain used to tell me that something was wrong. (but I didn’t know it at the time.)

In our schools, there are 6 year old kids that are throwing tables across the room. Why? Because they are afraid. They have so much tension inside and by throwing the table, they are trying to release it .  They are trying to control it the uncomfortable sensations–shut it down.

As a parent, how many times have we yelled at our kids, then regret it and maybe apologize later–“I’m sorry, I love you”? But then sometime later the child will do it again, or something similar, as they do, and we react again, apologize again? What sensations are we trying extinguish?

As a care-giver to someone that used to be sharp as a tack, but now has trouble finding their shoes, we can be impatient and snappish. Why is the emotion surging, over what is now a matter of fact in Mom’s life?

The subtle physical sensations that represent our emotions, are put there by our brain to alert us to a perceived situation that is similar, sometimes vaguely so, to some past event that was extremely upsetting to us. We employed the now invoked emotion to “survive” that episode. The unconscious mind remembers all these events in our lives. It is trying to prepare us for a new such event by invoking the emotion, much like blood-pressure goes up in preparation for a physical activity.

So when you react at someone, recognize the cycle of

  • The incident — usually something done around you e.i., Mom does something irritating
  • The tension – your subconscious reacts and creates physical sensations, a new tension in the body
  • The snappish comment, raised voice, heavy sigh, take a breath (or two), etc – attempt to release or control the sensations
  • The contrition – if the release extended outward to affect another
  • The calm – AHHH, relief! the sensation is gone.

Slamming doors and rolling eyes, shows that we still have something to work on. Your reactions and behaviors are the telltales of what is lying under the surface. The reacts don’t resolve the emotions, they just temporarily relieve the tension.


EmRes does resolve the emotion of the situation. It resets the subconscious mind’s connect between the situation and the emotion — there is no danger here, you don’t need to provoke that emotion any more. It’s done, that emotional situation is gone…forever.

On one level, EmRes is for people with major trauma, that need major shifts.  But on another level, it is really about resolving the simple interactions that are not “above the line”. 

Our work on ourselves is very important. ANYTHING that brings on a physical sensation is “actionable”.

EmRes is a tool for accelerating our Human Growth Potential. 

The more content we are, the better we are for those around us. If we are not content, we can’t fake it and be present for others.  And every time you do an eye-roll, you are not content.

We can grow and evolve into more decent, wonderful, better human beings that we were yesterday. We have the potential to be Super-Great.

Are you read to shed your unwanted reactions and be Super?

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About Sue
Sue Siebens is an intuitive holistic healer based in Dallas, Texas. In her practice, she uses techniques that work at a fundamental level, where the roots of the illness, fear and pain can be accessed and resolved.  Sue teaches and blogs to broadcast and raise awareness about these new technologies, so that as many people as possible can find relief and peace in their life.

Removing Trauma from the Body

By Sue Siebens

Emotional Resolution is about balancing your feelings by addressing the emotions that are embedded in our bodies, replaying when triggered by similar situations, enlarging the scope of the current circumstances and keeping us in a seemingly endless cycle of drama and pain.

Neuroscientist and trauma researcher, Bessel van der Kolk, MD has spent his career studying how children and adults adapt to traumatic experiences. He has some very interesting things to say about how trauma affects our bodies and compensating behaviors.

“The trauma caused by childhood neglect, sexual or domestic abuse and war wreaks havoc in our bodies” — Bessel van der Kolk in The Body Keeps the Score

He says that we commonly think that trauma is a story about the past, but in fact, trauma makes changes to our brain, so that the person sees and experiences the world differently than other human beings. Research shows that “it is almost impossible to become a drug addict/alcoholic without having a prior history of childhood trauma.” Addiction is the result of these people desperately trying to manage unbearable physical sensations.

Peter Levine, PhD has also spent a career working with trauma. He developed a body-awareness approach to healing trauma called Somatic Experiencing (SE). SE focuses on the physiological responses that occur when someone experiences or remembers an overwhelming or traumatic event, in his or her body, rather than only through the thoughts or emotions connected to it. His method is to allow and encourage the body’s sensations, trapped by the trauma, to discharge using a number of “resources” to ground the person in the present moment, that reinforce the client’s inherent capacity to self-regulate.

“The bodies of traumatized people portray “snapshots” of their unsuccessful attempts to defend themselves in the face of threat and injury. Trauma is a highly activated incomplete biological response to threat, frozen in time… Traumatized people are not suffering from a disease in the normal sense of the word- they have become stuck in an aroused state. It is difficult, if not impossible, to function normally under these circumstances.” — Peter A. Levine


I find it affirming, and corroborating, that these two world renowned and respected experts in the field of trauma research both agree that unprocessed emotions are trapped in the body. And that the best path to recovery is by working to release the frozen emotions from the body.

Connecting Trauma and Chronic Pain

In my own work, I’ve found that my clients who are struggling with the repercussions of trauma have issue on two fronts: Emotional and Physical. Often times they are in traditional therapy of some kind, but find it hard to make headway because of chronic body pain.

Traumatic emotions are buried in the body and resurface as pain and named disorders when left unresolved over long periods of time.

Bowen Technique is a system of gentle bodywork, that brings equilibrium to fascia (connective tissue) tension in the body. It is very relaxing and stimulates the body’s nervous systems to re-balance, prompting a healing response on structural and energetic levels Short answer: it feels really good and takes the pain away.

When pain is first and foremost in a person’s mind, it is very difficult to work on anything else, even if “anything else” is critical to relieving emotional pain, which is also critical to recovery. I’ve found that applying Bowen to chronic pain is a necessary first step. When the body calms down, after a session or two of Bowen, clients find their traditional therapy much more productive. They can remember, focus and do the work with out the distracting onslaught of pain.

Adding an Emotional Resolution (EmRes) session before Bowen is a powerful advantage. Emotional Resolution is a simple method of releasing buried emotions, regardless of the circumstances around their internment. The client recalls an emotional situation of note, and the practitioner guides them thru a protocol of physical sensory awareness which releases the triggered emotion that is buried in the body. Immediately afterwards the clients receives a Bowen session to help the body finish processing the emotion release and do the primary work of balancing the fascia to release and ignite a healing response.

The combination of Emotional Resolution and Bowen is amazing. There is a synergy and reciprocity between the two disciplines that coordinate responses between physical and emotional bodies. They literally talk the language of the limbic system that is holding the emotions, the body memories, in stasis and provides portals for their discharge and release.

Emotion work and Body work, individually, can be an asset to any recovery process. But together in the same session, they have produced headway and breakthroughs in my clients. These cases reinforce my enthusiasm and desire to champion this work. It’s so important to those of us that need it.

Are you ready to release your buried trauma and chronic body pain?

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About Sue
Sue Siebens is an intuitive holistic healer based in Dallas, Texas. In her practice, she uses techniques that work at a fundamental level, where the roots of the illness, fear and pain can be accessed and resolved.  Sue teaches and blogs to broadcast and raise awareness about these new technologies, so that as many people as possible can find relief and peace in their life.


Video with Bessel van der Kolk

Youtube with Peter Levine

Overcoming Anger with Emotional Resolution

By Sue Siebens

Anger! that flash of that grips the chest and gut!  It focuses our attention to the source of our indignation and calls for immediate action in our defense, correcting someone else’s behavior.

It can be overwhelming and what seems reasonable and honest to us, inside our brain, can be an exaggerated tirade by an observer, even if the rant is not directed towards them?

Why do we react in such a big way? Why do we react at all, especially when our personal safety and well-being is not at risk,… especially when it’s directed toward someone we love and care deeply for?

Past emotions that are unresolved still exist in our bodies.  For some reason, the natural process of regulating the emotion when it first happened was interrupted and it didn’t dissipate. In the future, when a situation triggers that emotion, not only do we react to the circumstances of the current situation, but the stored emotion is added to the mix. The mind then faces a heightened narrative to which it feels compelled to respond.

We want to be in the present moment.  Life would be so much simpler if we only had to deal with what is happening now.

How do we get rid of those stored emotions?

It turns out that by paying attention, in a very precise way, to the physical sensations that represent an emotion, it will dissipate and be removed permanently.

Emotional Resolution, EmRes, protocols have amazing effects.  In a short 30 minute or less session, a single emotion can be addressed and resolved.  It doesn’t matter what the emotion is.  The origin and story about how the emotion got locked in the body is not important to this process. We only deal with a current-ish situation that has triggered the emotion.

It sounds too simple to be true, but I have many clients who can attest to the remarkable results they have experienced.

check out this article: JESSICA’S STORY OF OVERCOMING ANGER

If you have emotional difficulties that are affecting your life and relationships, give Emotional Resolution a try.

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About Sue
Sue Siebens is an intuitive holistic healer based in Dallas, Texas. In her practice, she uses techniques that work at a fundamental level, where the roots of the illness, fear and pain can be accessed and resolved.  Sue teaches and blogs to broadcast and raise awareness about these new technologies, so that as many people as possible can find relief and peace in their life.

What is your Emotional Temperature?

By Sue Siebens

How do you feel when you wake up in the morning?

By noon what is your mood?

When your work day is done, what emotions are swirling?

Do you drop off to sleep gently? Is your sleep restful?

A large part of having good emotional intelligence is the capability to recognize our own emotions, identify the different feelings and use this information to guide thinking and behavior, to manage our reactions and adapt to the situations we find ourselves in.

But, most of wander around in a blur of feelings that we don’t know how to control or where they came from apart from the immediate event. And often, our most distressing times are over-the-top responses, soaring much larger than the current reason calls for. And these events repeat with a disheartening frequency, even if the exact cause is “different”.

It can be overwhelming and frustrating.  How do we get past it? When is our breakthrough?


EmRes – Emotional Resolution is a natural process that we are born with.  Sometimes the resolution process gets interrupted and the emotions that are active or in-flight do not get metabolized.  When the same emotion is triggered at a later time, even years later, the original unresolved emotions will activate and flood the current situation, prompting reactions and drama that are in excess.

Good new! We don’t have to know anything about the event or trauma that caused the original block.

In an EmRes session, a current troublesome situation is relived by describing the current situation and briefly telling the story enough to get the event firmly in mind.  Then the lymbic system in the brain is activated to completely digest the emotion(s) that were flaring.  Once emotion’s physical sensation blueprint is gone, the emotional block is expired as well.

Once complete, future emotional situations of a similar nature will not cause the “resolved” emotion to swirl into another emotional storm. In fact, each individual emotional resolution will quell most or all situations that have a similar emotional root.  In other words, an EmRes session for anxiety using one situation can resolve the unnatural anxiety felt in many, if not all, of your situations.

EmRes is new to the US. Almost no one has heard about it. But, the response of people that have tried EmRes is almost universally positive. They(we) are amazed at how transformative the EmRes process can be.

People stuck in the grips of grief, fear, anger and frustration have found their breakthrough. Lives have been changed for the better.

It can happen for you too!

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About Sue
Sue Siebens is an intuitive holistic healer based in Dallas, Texas. In her practice, she uses techniques that work at a fundamental level, where the roots of the illness, fear and pain can be accessed and resolved.  Sue teaches and blogs to broadcast and raise awareness about these new technologies, so that as many people as possible can find relief and peace in their life.

Clearing Emotions to Heal the Body

By Sue Siebens

I had a client in for an Emorional Resolution or EmRes session followed by a bodywork session. She had been in previously for just bodywork (Bowen) and was intrigued by my description of EmRes.
So we did the EmRes session and afterwards she said, ” Most of my physical sensation were in places were I have ongoing pain or other issues.”
Her sensations didn’t “start out” on her physical issues but at the end, they were the “last ones” to appear and resolve.

Then I had another client that had a similar experience… Previous session was Energywork (Reiki, etc) and this session was EmRes + Bowen for body pain we had discussed before.
As the EmRes session wound down, his physical sensations were in the areas of his physical dysfunction.

These sessions confirm, again,  the link between the emotional/mental and physical layers of our being.  I believe the EmRes session is taking off the Emotional/Mental congestion off the body, so that the physical issues can be addressed and released. Its amazing 

Here’s an interesting Time article that say much the same thing: Ignoring Your Emotions Is Bad for Your Health.


Find a EmRes session to resolve the difficult emotions that are holding back your healing–no matter what level (mental, emotional, physical)  it may be.

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About Sue
Sue Siebens is an intuitive holistic healer based in Dallas, Texas. In her practice, she uses techniques that work at a fundamental level, where the roots of the illness, fear and pain can be accessed and resolved.  Sue teaches and blogs to broadcast and raise awareness about these new technologies, so that as many people as possible can find relief and peace in their life.

Shift out of Emotional Upset

By Sue Siebens

Emotions

We all have them. Emotions are a physical sensation that our mind labels as anger, contempt, fear, disgust, happiness, sadness or surprise, or some combination of these.

When we experience heightened emotions, it can feel like they will never end. Usually, the emotional event resolves naturally. Moments or days later, we remember the incident–the story– but it’s not emotionally charged.

However, in some circumstances, this natural ability may be blocked. Each remembering of that past emotional event, or newly triggered similar situation, throw us back into the same emotional storm again.

EmRes – to Resolve Difficult Emotions
When we experience a upsetting emotions, unresolved emotions from similar situations in the past will resurface instantaneously. The past clouds our understanding of what is happening now, and filters our abilities to function and respond effectively to the present.

EmRes uses consciously re-experienced sensations to allow the emotional blocks to be integrated and resolved – permanently. How cool is that!?!

With EmRes, the emotional patterns are deactivated, without mental interference. By giving attention to these physical sensations and how they shift, a natural and permanent regulation takes place. A critical benefit of this technique is the ability to resolve long-standing traumas and emotional patterns without emotionally re-activating the client.

EmRes sessions rarely need to exceed 30 minutes to obtain a complete and permanent resolution.

The idea is to have emotions, to feel love, happiness and sometimes anger, fear or surprise as appropriate…But without the debris of past experiences clouding the current situation. (again, how wonderful to let go of the past)


EmRes at Shining Light Energy Works

EmRes = Emotional Resolution
As a stand-alone session, come in for a 30 minute (or less) EmRes session to regulate an emotion. Decide which emotional difficulty you’d like to resolve (one per session) and a general idea about what kind of situation triggers this emotional event.

EmRes + Energywork (Reiki) or
EmRes + Bowen
An EmRes session followed by a Energy or relaxing Bowen session is a great combo to alleviate an emotional difficulty and tackle the emotional component of the pain/stress in your body and spirit. These sessions are scheduled for 90 minutes.

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About Sue
Sue Siebens is an intuitive holistic healer based in Dallas, Texas. In her practice, she uses techniques that work at a fundamental level, where the roots of the illness, fear and pain can be accessed and resolved.  Sue teaches and blogs to broadcast and raise awareness about these new technologies, so that as many people as possible can find relief and peace in their life.

Calming Restless Legs

By Sue Siebens

RestlessLegSyndrome

You’re laying in bed, just about to drop into sleep, and there’s the itch or twitch that startles you back from slumber.  or the knee jerks that make you feel like a puppet with someone else pulling the strings. Some legs get wild enough to force sleeping in a bed separate from their years-long partner.  Whether on the sofa or in bed there seems to be no escaping the legs that want to move.

I’ve helped clients with Restless Leg Syndrome.  I’ve done it using Energy and Bowen, individually and both in separate sessions.

Bowen helps neurological issues by loosening fascia which restores tissue hydration and unrestricted communication with the limbic system. Moist tissue can respond to our activity demands, recover from those exertions and rest when “in waiting”.

Fascia also holds our body memory or muscle memory- the patterns or reactions that we carry out without conscious thought.  It also hold the somatic memory of injuries and trauma that we have incurred.  Balanced fascia is more fully in communication with our limbic system which houses the emotional-mental portions of the injuries and traumas.  The feedback between the fascial and limbic systems integrate the physical and emotional-mental responses to new and chronic injuries. This will make healing responses more appropriate, releasing cascading inflammation, edema and chronic muscle spasms.

Energy sessions help rest the spirit and can reveal the spiritual reason for the physical manifestation.  Our work on this plane is activated by our family and friends when we are young, usually by age 7 through misunderstanding and trauma. If we don’t respond by facing and resolving the issue, it will be presented to us time and again, louder and more painful each time, until it gets our full and complete attention. 🙂 Each of us have a unique and varied life course. Energy work can help “lift the lid” on those unresolved reactions that we buried in our bodies and memories.  As adults we have more control over ourselves and our environments and have better tools to help remove these bundles of pain and sorrow.  Our itches and twitches are our sub-conscious trying to tell us something.

Either way, getting some relief from the itch, pain and twitch in yours will help you get needed rest and feeling better!

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About Sue
Sue Siebens is an intuitive holistic healer based in Dallas, Texas. In her practice, she uses techniques that work at a fundamental level, where the roots of the illness, fear and pain can be accessed and resolved.  Sue teaches and blogs to broadcast and raise awareness about these new technologies, so that as many people as possible can find relief and peace in their life.