When I started learning and working with Emotional Resolution (EmRes), I thought: “Hey, EmRes is great stuff. There are lots of people with over-the-top emotions, trapped in their behaviors and locked into patterns that seem unbreakable.” And EmRes can certainly tackle those myriad of “large” emotions, that swamp people’s lives and keep them imprisoned in cycles of fear, rage and abuse, to themselves and others.
Now that I’ve worked with EmRes for a while, with clients, friends, fellow practitioners and myself, I’ve come to realize that, Yes, it works great for people with “big” emotional issues. But we all have tensions inside of us. They range from irritable, snappy, or loudly expressed to bitter, callous, quiet eye-rolling or coldly indifferent.
When I was working in IT, I was frequently under high levels of stress for long periods of time. It’s kind of the nature of the beast in IT. And occasionally, I’d blow up, directly my anxiety outward. Subconsciously, it was my way to scare people away so that they would leave me alone and my sensations would go away. The physical sensation that my brain used to tell me that something was wrong. (but I didn’t know it at the time.)
In our schools, there are 6 year old kids that are throwing tables across the room. Why? Because they are afraid. They have so much tension inside and by throwing the table, they are trying to release it . They are trying to control it the uncomfortable sensations–shut it down.
As a parent, how many times have we yelled at our kids, then regret it and maybe apologize later–“I’m sorry, I love you”? But then sometime later the child will do it again, or something similar, as they do, and we react again, apologize again? What sensations are we trying extinguish?
As a care-giver to someone that used to be sharp as a tack, but now has trouble finding their shoes, we can be impatient and snappish. Why is the emotion surging, over what is now a matter of fact in Mom’s life?
The subtle physical sensations that represent our emotions, are put there by our brain to alert us to a perceived situation that is similar, sometimes vaguely so, to some past event that was extremely upsetting to us. We employed the now invoked emotion to “survive” that episode. The unconscious mind remembers all these events in our lives. It is trying to prepare us for a new such event by invoking the emotion, much like blood-pressure goes up in preparation for a physical activity.
So when you react at someone, recognize the cycle of
- The incident — usually something done around you e.i., Mom does something irritating
- The tension – your subconscious reacts and creates physical sensations, a new tension in the body
- The snappish comment, raised voice, heavy sigh, take a breath (or two), etc – attempt to release or control the sensations
- The contrition – if the release extended outward to affect another
- The calm – AHHH, relief! the sensation is gone.
Slamming doors and rolling eyes, shows that we still have something to work on. Your reactions and behaviors are the telltales of what is lying under the surface. The reacts don’t resolve the emotions, they just temporarily relieve the tension.
EmRes does resolve the emotion of the situation. It resets the subconscious mind’s connect between the situation and the emotion — there is no danger here, you don’t need to provoke that emotion any more. It’s done, that emotional situation is gone…forever.
On one level, EmRes is for people with major trauma, that need major shifts. But on another level, it is really about resolving the simple interactions that are not “above the line”.
Our work on ourselves is very important. ANYTHING that brings on a physical sensation is “actionable”.
EmRes is a tool for accelerating our Human Growth Potential.
The more content we are, the better we are for those around us. If we are not content, we can’t fake it and be present for others. And every time you do an eye-roll, you are not content.
We can grow and evolve into more decent, wonderful, better human beings that we were yesterday. We have the potential to be Super-Great.
Are you read to shed your unwanted reactions and be Super? Learn Self-EmRes or work with an EmRes professional.
Emotional Resolution is about balancing your feelings by addressing the emotions that are embedded in our bodies, replaying when triggered by similar situations, enlarging the scope of the current circumstances and keeping us in a seemingly endless cycle of drama and pain.
Neuroscientist and trauma researcher, Bessel van der Kolk, MD has spent his career studying how children and adults adapt to traumatic experiences. He has some very interesting things to say about how trauma affects our bodies and compensating behaviors.
“The trauma caused by childhood neglect, sexual or domestic abuse and war wreaks havoc in our bodies” — Bessel van der Kolk in The Body Keeps the Score
He says that we commonly think that trauma is a story about the past, but in fact, trauma makes changes to our brain, so that the person sees and experiences the world differently than other human beings. Research shows that “it is almost impossible to become a drug addict/alcoholic without having a prior history of childhood trauma.” Addiction is the result of these people desperately trying to manage unbearable physical sensations.
Peter Levine, PhD has also spent a career working with trauma. He developed a body-awareness approach to healing trauma called Somatic Experiencing (SE). SE focuses on the physiological responses that occur when someone experiences or remembers an overwhelming or traumatic event, in his or her body, rather than only through the thoughts or emotions connected to it. His method is to allow and encourage the body’s sensations, trapped by the trauma, to discharge using a number of “resources” to ground the person in the present moment, that reinforce the client’s inherent capacity to self-regulate.
“The bodies of traumatized people portray “snapshots” of their unsuccessful attempts to defend themselves in the face of threat and injury. Trauma is a highly activated incomplete biological response to threat, frozen in time… Traumatized people are not suffering from a disease in the normal sense of the word- they have become stuck in an aroused state. It is difficult, if not impossible, to function normally under these circumstances.” — Peter A. Levine
I find it affirming, and corroborating, that these two world renowned and respected experts in the field of trauma research both agree that unprocessed emotions are trapped in the body. And that the best path to recovery is by working to release the frozen emotions from the body.
Connecting Trauma and Chronic Pain
In my own work, I’ve found that my clients who are struggling with the repercussions of trauma have issue on two fronts: Emotional and Physical. Often times they are in traditional therapy of some kind, but find it hard to make headway because of chronic body pain.
Traumatic emotions are buried in the body and resurface as pain and named disorders when left unresolved over long periods of time.
Bowen Technique is a system of gentle bodywork, that brings equilibrium to fascia (connective tissue) tension in the body. It is very relaxing and stimulates the body’s nervous systems to re-balance, prompting a healing response on structural and energetic levels Short answer: it feels really good and takes the pain away.
When pain is first and foremost in a person’s mind, it is very difficult to work on anything else, even if “anything else” is critical to relieving emotional pain, which is also critical to recovery. I’ve found that applying Bowen to chronic pain is a necessary first step. When the body calms down, after a session or two of Bowen, clients find their traditional therapy much more productive. They can remember, focus and do the work with out the distracting onslaught of pain.
Adding an Emotional Resolution (EmRes) session before Bowen is a powerful advantage. Emotional Resolution is a simple method of releasing buried emotions, regardless of the circumstances around their internment. The client recalls an emotional situation of note, and the practitioner guides them thru a protocol of physical sensory awareness which releases the triggered emotion that is buried in the body. Immediately afterwards the clients receives a Bowen session to help the body finish processing the emotion release and do the primary work of balancing the fascia to release and ignite a healing response.
The combination of Emotional Resolution and Bowen is amazing. There is a synergy and reciprocity between the two disciplines that coordinate responses between physical and emotional bodies. They literally talk the language of the limbic system that is holding the emotions, the body memories, in stasis and provides portals for their discharge and release.
Emotion work and Body work, individually, can be an asset to any recovery process. But together in the same session, they have produced headway and breakthroughs in my clients. These cases reinforce my enthusiasm and desire to champion this work. It’s so important to those of us that need it.
Are you ready to release your buried trauma and chronic body pain?
Video with Bessel van der Kolk
Youtube with Peter Levine
Anger! that flash of that grips the chest and gut! It focuses our attention to the source of our indignation and calls for immediate action in
our defense, correcting someone else’s behavior.
It can be overwhelming and what seems reasonable and honest to us, inside our brain, can be an exaggerated tirade by an observer, even if the rant is not directed towards them?
Why do we react in such a big way? Why do we react at all, especially when our personal safety and well-being is not at risk,… especially when it’s directed toward someone we love and care deeply for?
Past emotions that are unresolved still exist in our bodies. For some reason, the natural process of regulating the emotion when it first happened was interrupted and it didn’t dissipate. In the future, when a situation triggers that emotion, not only do we react to the circumstances of the current situation, but the stored emotion is added to the mix. The mind then faces a heightened narrative to which it feels compelled to respond.
We want to be in the present moment. Life would be so much simpler if we only had to deal with what is happening now.
How do we get rid of those stored emotions?
It turns out that by paying attention, in a very precise way, to the physical sensations that represent an emotion, it will dissipate and be removed permanently.
Emotional Resolution, EmRes, protocols have amazing effects. In a short 30 minute or less session, a single emotion can be addressed and resolved. It doesn’t matter what the emotion is. The origin and story about how the emotion got locked in the body is not important to this process. We only deal with a current-ish situation that has triggered the emotion.
It sounds too simple to be true, but I have many clients who can attest to the remarkable results they have experienced.
If you have emotional difficulties that are affecting your life and relationships, give Emotional Resolution a try.
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