Awakening Human Potential

When I started learning and working with Emotional Resolution (EmRes), I thought: “Hey, EmRes is great stuff. There are lots of people with over-the-top emotions, trapped in their behaviors and locked into patterns that seem unbreakable.”  And EmRes can certainly tackle those myriad of “large” emotions, that swamp people’s lives and keep them imprisoned in cycles of fear, rage and abuse, to themselves and others. 

We have the Potential to be Super-Great

Now that I’ve worked with EmRes for a while, with clients, friends, fellow practitioners and myself, I’ve come to realize that, Yes, it works great for people with “big” emotional issues. But we all have tensions inside of us. They range from irritable, snappy, or loudly expressed to bitter, callous, quiet eye-rolling or coldly indifferent.

When I was working in IT, I was frequently under high levels of stress for long periods of time. It’s kind of the nature of the beast in IT. And occasionally, I’d blow up, directly my anxiety outward. Subconsciously, it was my way to scare people away so that they would leave me alone and my sensations would go away. The physical sensation that my brain used to tell me that something was wrong. (but I didn’t know it at the time.)

In our schools, there are 6 year old kids that are throwing tables across the room. Why? Because they are afraid. They have so much tension inside and by throwing the table, they are trying to release it .  They are trying to control it the uncomfortable sensations–shut it down.

As a parent, how many times have we yelled at our kids, then regret it and maybe apologize later–“I’m sorry, I love you”? But then sometime later the child will do it again, or something similar, as they do, and we react again, apologize again? What sensations are we trying extinguish?

As a care-giver to someone that used to be sharp as a tack, but now has trouble finding their shoes, we can be impatient and snappish. Why is the emotion surging, over what is now a matter of fact in Mom’s life?

The subtle physical sensations that represent our emotions, are put there by our brain to alert us to a perceived situation that is similar, sometimes vaguely so, to some past event that was extremely upsetting to us. We employed the now invoked emotion to “survive” that episode. The unconscious mind remembers all these events in our lives. It is trying to prepare us for a new such event by invoking the emotion, much like blood-pressure goes up in preparation for a physical activity.

So when you react at someone, recognize the cycle of

  • The incident — usually something done around you e.i., Mom does something irritating
  • The tension – your subconscious reacts and creates physical sensations, a new tension in the body
  • The snappish comment, raised voice, heavy sigh, take a breath (or two), etc – attempt to release or control the sensations
  • The contrition – if the release extended outward to affect another
  • The calm – AHHH, relief! the sensation is gone.

Slamming doors and rolling eyes, shows that we still have something to work on. Your reactions and behaviors are the telltales of what is lying under the surface. The reacts don’t resolve the emotions, they just temporarily relieve the tension.


EmRes does resolve the emotion of the situation. It resets the subconscious mind’s connect between the situation and the emotion — there is no danger here, you don’t need to provoke that emotion any more. It’s done, that emotional situation is gone…forever.

On one level, EmRes is for people with major trauma, that need major shifts.  But on another level, it is really about resolving the simple interactions that are not “above the line”. 

Our work on ourselves is very important. ANYTHING that brings on a physical sensation is “actionable”.

EmRes is a tool for accelerating our Human Growth Potential. 

The more content we are, the better we are for those around us. If we are not content, we can’t fake it and be present for others.  And every time you do an eye-roll, you are not content.

We can grow and evolve into more decent, wonderful, better human beings that we were yesterday. We have the potential to be Super-Great.

Are you read to shed your unwanted reactions and be Super? Learn Self-EmRes or work with an EmRes professional.

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Removing Trauma from the Body

Emotional Resolution is about balancing your feelings by addressing the emotions that are embedded in our bodies, replaying when triggered by similar situations, enlarging the scope of the current circumstances and keeping us in a seemingly endless cycle of drama and pain.

Neuroscientist and trauma researcher, Bessel van der Kolk, MD has spent his career studying how children and adults adapt to traumatic experiences. He has some very interesting things to say about how trauma affects our bodies and compensating behaviors.

“The trauma caused by childhood neglect, sexual or domestic abuse and war wreaks havoc in our bodies” — Bessel van der Kolk in The Body Keeps the Score

He says that we commonly think that trauma is a story about the past, but in fact, trauma makes changes to our brain, so that the person sees and experiences the world differently than other human beings. Research shows that “it is almost impossible to become a drug addict/alcoholic without having a prior history of childhood trauma.” Addiction is the result of these people desperately trying to manage unbearable physical sensations.

Peter Levine, PhD has also spent a career working with trauma. He developed a body-awareness approach to healing trauma called Somatic Experiencing (SE). SE focuses on the physiological responses that occur when someone experiences or remembers an overwhelming or traumatic event, in his or her body, rather than only through the thoughts or emotions connected to it. His method is to allow and encourage the body’s sensations, trapped by the trauma, to discharge using a number of “resources” to ground the person in the present moment, that reinforce the client’s inherent capacity to self-regulate.

“The bodies of traumatized people portray “snapshots” of their unsuccessful attempts to defend themselves in the face of threat and injury. Trauma is a highly activated incomplete biological response to threat, frozen in time… Traumatized people are not suffering from a disease in the normal sense of the word- they have become stuck in an aroused state. It is difficult, if not impossible, to function normally under these circumstances.” — Peter A. Levine


I find it affirming, and corroborating, that these two world renowned and respected experts in the field of trauma research both agree that unprocessed emotions are trapped in the body. And that the best path to recovery is by working to release the frozen emotions from the body.

Connecting Trauma and Chronic Pain

In my own work, I’ve found that my clients who are struggling with the repercussions of trauma have issue on two fronts: Emotional and Physical. Often times they are in traditional therapy of some kind, but find it hard to make headway because of chronic body pain.

Traumatic emotions are buried in the body and resurface as pain and named disorders when left unresolved over long periods of time.

Bowen Technique is a system of gentle bodywork, that brings equilibrium to fascia (connective tissue) tension in the body. It is very relaxing and stimulates the body’s nervous systems to re-balance, prompting a healing response on structural and energetic levels Short answer: it feels really good and takes the pain away.

When pain is first and foremost in a person’s mind, it is very difficult to work on anything else, even if “anything else” is critical to relieving emotional pain, which is also critical to recovery. I’ve found that applying Bowen to chronic pain is a necessary first step. When the body calms down, after a session or two of Bowen, clients find their traditional therapy much more productive. They can remember, focus and do the work with out the distracting onslaught of pain.

Adding an Emotional Resolution (EmRes) session before Bowen is a powerful advantage. Emotional Resolution is a simple method of releasing buried emotions, regardless of the circumstances around their internment. The client recalls an emotional situation of note, and the practitioner guides them thru a protocol of physical sensory awareness which releases the triggered emotion that is buried in the body. Immediately afterwards the clients receives a Bowen session to help the body finish processing the emotion release and do the primary work of balancing the fascia to release and ignite a healing response.

The combination of Emotional Resolution and Bowen is amazing. There is a synergy and reciprocity between the two disciplines that coordinate responses between physical and emotional bodies. They literally talk the language of the limbic system that is holding the emotions, the body memories, in stasis and provides portals for their discharge and release.

Emotion work and Body work, individually, can be an asset to any recovery process. But together in the same session, they have produced headway and breakthroughs in my clients. These cases reinforce my enthusiasm and desire to champion this work. It’s so important to those of us that need it.

Are you ready to release your buried trauma and chronic body pain?

Book your Emotional Resolution and Bowen Session today


Video with Bessel van der Kolk

Youtube with Peter Levine

Shift out of Emotional Upset

Emotions

We all have them. Emotions are a physical sensation that our mind labels as anger, contempt, fear, disgust, happiness, sadness or surprise, or some combination of these.

When we experience heightened emotions, it can feel like they will never end. Usually, the emotional event resolves naturally. Moments or days later, we remember the incident–the story– but it’s not emotionally charged.

However, in some circumstances, this natural ability may be blocked. Each remembering of that past emotional event, or newly triggered similar situation, throw us back into the same emotional storm again.

EmRes – to Resolve Difficult Emotions
When we experience a upsetting emotions, unresolved emotions from similar situations in the past will resurface instantaneously. The past clouds our understanding of what is happening now, and filters our abilities to function and respond effectively to the present.

EmRes uses consciously re-experienced sensations to allow the emotional blocks to be integrated and resolved – permanently. How cool is that!?!

With EmRes, the emotional patterns are deactivated, without mental interference. By giving attention to these physical sensations and how they shift, a natural and permanent regulation takes place. A critical benefit of this technique is the ability to resolve long-standing traumas and emotional patterns without emotionally re-activating the client.

EmRes sessions rarely need to exceed 30 minutes to obtain a complete and permanent resolution.

The idea is to have emotions, to feel love, happiness and sometimes anger, fear or surprise as appropriate…But without the debris of past experiences clouding the current situation. (again, how wonderful to let go of the past)


EmRes at Shining Light Energy Works

EmRes = Emotional Resolution
As a stand-alone session, come in for a 30 minute (or less) EmRes session to regulate an emotion. Decide which emotional difficulty you’d like to resolve (one per session) and a general idea about what kind of situation triggers this emotional event.

EmRes + Energywork (Reiki) or
EmRes + Bowen
An EmRes session followed by a Energy or relaxing Bowen session is a great combo to alleviate an emotional difficulty and tackle the emotional component of the pain/stress in your body and spirit. These sessions are scheduled for 90 minutes.

Book an appointment to relieve your pain and stress at Shining Light Energy Works
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More on Clearing your space

When you are looking to clear your space, Smudging is just one of the techniques that you should thing about. “Your space” is made 15862864_xlup of more than just the “bad energy” and any possible entities lurking in the corners.

Your environment has many components.  Is it cluttered? Are electronics plugged in creating micro-fields of chaotic energy? Are
there emotional sparks and darts flying around?

This is a great lists of things to consider when you desire a cleaner, fresher environment for working, living, relaxing and sleeping. Clearing Non-Beneficial Energy

Periodically examine the spaces where you spend time. This can be once a quarter, at the beginning of each season–if you have four seasons :), or at the solstice and equinox points of the year.  Survey each area for opportunities to clear-out, renew and spruce up.

It will keep your spaces healthy and supportive….and you will be astonished how much healthier and supportive your mind will be as well.

 

 

Body Pain and Emotions

So related to the last post on Bowen and Mental Health.  this article show exactly how/where our emotionsReikiSession effect our bodies, causing pain and discomfort.

Body Pain and Emotional States

Seems like I’m always writing about Bowen.  But Energy work (Reiki, Quantum Touch, Chrystal and Sound healing) can help with all of these issues and can help the issue move from the subconscious to the conscious level where it can be addressed and cleared.

Most of my Energy work session are designed to target current issues in my clients life.  During the session, the brain enters an alpha/theta state of a lucid daydream, where the subconscious connects to the conscious through memories, feelings and visions.  We, the client and I, work together to examine and decipher the information to access root causes for the disturbance causing pain in the body.  It’s amazing work and produces great results.

 

 

Bowen and Mental Health

MentalHealth

Do Bowen sessions help with mental health issues?

I have to say: YES! it is a wonderful compliment and enhancement to any therapeutic work done for mental health.  Emotional and Mental issues have an effect on the body by tensing muscles, knotting up fascia, binding the visceral organs, interrupting normal hormone flow and disturbing lymphatic and circulatory systems.

What happens in the mind, also happens in the body.

By relieving body stress, the body become more relaxed and functions better.  This takes pressure/worry off the mind, allowing an opening and space in the mental and emotional bodies to heal as well.  It doesn’t happen overnight, periodic sessions are necessary.  But according to my clients, the sessions accelerated their progress and their were very happy with the results.

This article has some great thoughts on Bowen Therapy and Mental Health

I’ve helped clients address their mental health issues including PTSD, Depression and Eating disorders.  It’s amazing what the mind can do when the body has less stress and pain.